Strategic Meetings
Our big-bad-boss-man planned to come up to Tamale for meetings on Friday so I knew my language week would be short and I had to make the most of it. I went out Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday telling people about what I am learning about their culture and their homes. I started telling the Creation story from Genesis. I feel quite confident in that one. I was saying to little kids and they were pretty much like--just show me the picture. Such cuties!! I can't really tell if they understand me or not. Their Dagbani is about as clear as mine.Wednesday afternoon, Damary and I went to the market to prepare food for the people staying with us and the meetings. I was planning to cook Ghanaian food with Amama. But, Thursday came around and she had really bad asthma and could not come. I freaked out a little bit because I rarely cook Ghanaian food. Maybe once every 2 years or something because it takes so long to cook and I always mess up. Ghanaians do not use recipes, so everyone"s way of making something is different. It is hard for me to learn. I was excited for Amama to help and then scared when I was on my own. Thankfully, it all turned out well!! I made a big dish of Kontumerie Stew which goes over boiled yam or rice. Damary, Yvonne and I made meals for Friday and Saturday and snacks for the meetings. Also, on Thursday, since Amama was not there we had to clean the house, bathrooms and get the guest rooms ready. It was a busy day. We have a big house!Friday, I went to the airport to pick up Phil, the big-boss-man, (maybe you may get the wrong impression of him when I say that. He is a big man, and he is my boss but he is a great friend and amazing leader. I really admire the wisdom God has given him and he is so faithful to use it for God's kingdom.) Pam also came with. She is the newest SIM Ghana missionary. She will serve in the guesthouse in Accra. I am so glad she was able to come up and see other parts of Ghana.When we got back to my house the Gushiegu team was already there. We had a quick lunch and in the afternoon started in on the meetings. They were strategic planning meetings. Normally, I hate meetings. But, I knew we needed this. I know as I walk around I see so many needs and I wonder how in the world am I going to know how to pick where to serve and who to serve with. I needed direction and hearing from my teammates they were looking for direction too.By the end of Friday evening we had an idea of our vision statement, or the why, for working in the Dagbon area. We also knew we love working as a team and want to continue to work together even though we are not all in the same place.Pam, Rema and Maami, and Baby Ethan slept at Yvonne's house and Phil, Fela and Puii, and Grace slept at our house. Our house was made to be full!! Yay!Saturday, we started again more focused in the what and how of ministry. To be honest, I really wish Phil would have said, "Sherri, this is what you are going to do." And then he proceeds to tell me. He didn't :( HaHa. Instead, each of us had to come up with our own goals and objectives. It was good to think thru. It was good to look at our why statement and then come up with some simple goals we/I can accomplish in 6 months. I feel good. I feel like this is a good focus. I know, at least, which direction to put my feet and that is great for right now. After Saturday afternoon, I was able to pick Phil's brain and ask more questions.I am so thankful for this team of people I work with. I love that God knew I would be working with them even before the world began. That is really too much for my mind. On Saturday evening, we went out to enjoy!Sunday, Damary, Yvonne and I took Phil and Pam back to the airport. Rema and Maami, Fela and Puii headed back for Gushiegu. It was so great having Phil around. When I lived in Accra, Phil, and his amazing wife Andrea, were my neighbors. We would see each other almost everyday. They were people for me to dump on when short termers got difficult or laugh with when I shared a story of the kids at church or go to if I needed eggs, or sugar or something. Andrea and I found it a bit easy to organize meals because we love food so much! I was so comfortable with them when I would come over I would not even knock. I would just open the door and yell, "HIIII" and they would yell back, "HELLOOO" and then we would sit and chat or whatever. They are super busy people and I never once felt like I was taking up their time. OOOOO how I miss living next to them. All that to say it was nice to see Phil, even though Andrea wasn't there, and even though it was mostly meetings, it was still nice :)Next week, we have been invited by one of our pastors who was raised in a M*slim home, which is the dominant religion here, to come to a seminar. He and his wife work with an organization called, Call of Hope. He is going to be teaching about that religion on Tuesday and Wednesday. I have been waiting for this. I want to hear more about it in the context I live. Damary and Yvonne will also come. Pray it will help us understand the people we live with.P.S.-- On the way home from the airport, I got a flat tire. I proceeded to get my spare out and Yvonne was saying she does not know how to change a tire. I told her that I know how but God always brings an angel to do it for me. As I put the lug wrench on the nut a man came by and said, "let me do that for you". Okiedokie! God does it again. This man's name was Samuel and he used to drive taxis. He had it changed in less than 10 minutes. AHHHMAZING!
Gushiegu Weekend
Painting to Run Away
Allergies
Language was good, as in, I was faithful. I had help with my friend Charity in Tumu who helped keep me accountable. One day, I said I wanted to say my dialogue with 4 people and I was about to give up...but forced myself to keep going because I knew she would ask me about it. Another day I had to quickly walk home because I could tell my allergies were kicking in. I did not even touch my eye and when I got home it was completely red! Ugh...but I put some drops in and got back out there. YAY!This month my allergies are really in attack mode. I have been waking up like thisred and puffy and gunky. It is a good morning when I can actually open them!In Accra, my allergies were pretty bad too. I was all drugged up on Benadryl or Claritin or something. I remember last year when I moved up here, I was surprised my allergies were ok, but not this year. Thankfully, rainy season has been going since June and my allergies are only kicking in now. That is better than what it was in Accra. The rains should finish by October and I can go back to normalcy.I finished my allergy drops and Mom said she sent some out but they haven't come yet. I went a couple days without and OOOOOO MYYYYYY GOOOODNESSSSSSS I suffered! I even googled how to make my own eyedrops, in which you need chloride tablets...yeah, I don't think I can find them here. I found I could use tea bags and put them on my eyes. That worked for about 5 minutes and then I was itchy again.On Friday I went to the post office to see if the package had come. It did not. There was a pharmacy across the street. I have looked at other pharmacies and no one has had allergy drops but THIS ONE DID!! I almost cried I was so happy! OOOOO how God provides!!!We had some of the Tumu team over. They had to do errands in Tamale and we were their hotel for a few days. We love it. It gave me an excuse to cook comfort food like meatloaf, mashed potatoes and I even baked rolls and carrot cake! I also found a recipe for peach french toast bake for breakfast. I substituted mangoes and it was amazing...can I say it was amazing even though I was the one who cooked it??? EI!! I told them the food was really all for me they were just the bonus :) Damary, the next day, cooked an Indian meal and OOOOO it was delish! We had great times of talking and hearing about ministry and language learning. They are all in the midst of it too. I am so thankful I work on a team!I should have few interruptions this week for language...let's see how it goes...Be praying!
"It was, Ok."
A Visit to Tumu
Good Language, a Cow and a Team Meeting...Not All Together
Language was a good week. That is saying a lot. I met a young punk, ok, not punk, but a young guy. I usually stay away from young guys because they are irritating or want things or even marriage topics come up but now that I am a big 40 year old, I'm thinkin' I can handle it and I am too old for them. This guy actually is a language student. He is on break for the month. The first time I sat at his little shop about 25 kids came around and just stared. I was like, this is not going to work, and I left. The next time, the guy really helped me speak and gave me examples and told me to do things and then explain what I did. I was learning this week about prepositions and such-- on, under, on top, take, bring etc, etc. Pastor Andrew and Jemima used a pen, paper, book, phone and keys and would put the keys on the book. I would then have to say in Dagbani, "you put the keys on the book". We did all sorts of sentences like that. That really helps me to learn. I learn by doing. So, with this young guy, we did the same thing. He told me to put the sugar in the box and I did it and then had to tell him what I did. Later this week a friend left their bicycle at our house and our watchman was asking about it. He only speaks Dagbani. I was able to tell/ask him, "I should take the bicycle inside the house?" (I didn't know if he thought someone would jump over our wall and steal it or something.) He said, "it's ok." I walked into the house happy because I could say that! WooHoo!! It is still a roller coaster ride of learning. But I am thankful.The other night, a cow was tied to my electric pole which is about 20 feet from my window. It must have been sick because the thing moo-ed like you wouldn't believe. It was so loud! I thought it had a microphone...ok, not really. Every time I would be about sleeping it would moo. Ugh! I didn't sleep until 4:30am. Ridiculous. The next morning I was prepared to go and tie the thing somewhere else. Thankfully, some men came and lifted it into their pickup truck and drove off. I wish I took a video of them putting the cow in their truck bed.We had a Northern Team meeting at our house yesterday. Two families from Gushegu came and then Damary and I. We first had lunch and I know this is a paragraph about the meeting but let me say I cooked lunch and I did not do it very well. The meat was way over done, like a mealy meat. It was disappointing. Of course, they are all to gracious to not say anything. But when someone does asks, "What meat is this?" you know, this did not turn out well. How can I love food so much and not be a good cook??? Ok, back to the meeting... it was my turn to lead and we read through and discussed Colossians 3:1-15. Such beautiful, encouraging words. We each shared one of the qualities we would like to put on. Our team is very transparent and it is wonderful to trust such people and work alongside them. We had a time of prayer and then talked about upcoming events. Both families stayed over night. We sat around and talked. We shared experiences, good and bad. We played with their kids. Actually, everyone in the house, except me. is from NorthEast India. I laughed and said, "I'm surrounded by Indians!"It really was not an exciting/special sort of week but it was a good language consistent week with few interruptions. I am still praying for God to lead me into the ministry He has for me. I am still praying to understand people here and love them and, of course, I am still praying to speak this language!Love you. Thanks for praying!!
Taboos, Rules, and Customs
I have been learning about Dagbon culture, rules and taboos. I have learned a couple of dialogues to say to people about what I have learned. I tell them I have learned that men stay in rectangular houses/rooms and women stay in round ones. I say the jobs women have and the jobs the men have. I tell them a rule that says married men do not cook and women do not slap their husbands. When I say this, I tell them another sentence in Dagbani that says I cannot marry a Dagbon man because if my husband slaps me I will slap him back. They always laugh.As I have sat around with people, I have learned many more rules and taboos. I will not share all because they are many. Some are so interesting!--Children are not allowed to whistle at night. REASON- Thieves were known to whistle to a partner when they were about to attack a person.--You do not sweep your house at night. REASON- Maybe something sharp is in your rubbish pile and you do not see it and when you sweep it outside someone may step on it.--You do not put water on a hot pot so that the steam will rise. REASON- The spirits do not like it.--If children do not play in the dirt when they are small, they will have a short life.--If a child does not mingle with others, they are not a child. REASON- The importance of community.--You do not sing or talk while taking a shower. REASON- It will prevent you from choking if water gets in your mouth.--You do not talk while eating. There was a saying in Accra, “chop time, no friends”, meaning while eating you do not mind anyone, even your friends. REASON- It prevents choking.--When walking in the bush or in the forest-y places you do not call out someone’s name. REASON- You do not want the spirits to hear and call that person away.--Do not run into the house. REASON- There is usually a 2-4 inch wall or lip that you step over to go inside a house. If you are running, you can trip over it and fall.--If there is thunder and lightning, and you are in the bush walk off the path. REASON- The lightning will not follow you in the bush.--If there is thunder and lightning, cover all mirrors, silver cups, or silver items. REASON- The spirits use lightning to pass through things to people. Going back again to the taboo about women not slapping their husbands, I talked with a woman who told me that her husband slaps her when he gets angry. She went on to tell me other hurtful things he does. I did not know what to say, but what she told me is abuse. She shrugged her shoulders and the woman next to her just sat there as if we were talking about the weather. I…I have been rolling this around in my mind. I am so blessed to have been born in America, in a family where I was taught that I am equal to a man, where I am valued not because I can give birth but because I am a human being. Jesus loves this woman and all the women here that I sit with. I pray I can share the love that has been shown to me in Christ.Continue praying! Love you.
When in Rome...
The Program In Yong Village
Ohhhh all the "to-dos"
I really thought I would be all deep in language and coming off my holiday in Accra I would be eager to do it! Hmmm…it did not quite go that way. It seems I did almost everything but language. What sorts of things did I do? Well, well, well, let me tell you…--We received our first electricity bill. We have been here for 7 months. You can imagine the big bill. I called our electrician to see if he could go and get it reduced because the rate we have would include the use of air conditioners etc, etc. (We don’t even have a TV.) He said he would come and do it for us. I did not want to do it myself because I was told if I show my foreign face they may even increase our flat rate! I waited for him to come the time he said…and of course, that never works out according to my American time. You know how people complain their refrigerator repair guy or internet repair guy never come when they say they will? Well, that is my life all.the.time. But, on a good note, I had some things that needed fixing so when he did come he was able to fix one of our fans and some electrical thing in my bathroom. Yay!--We have had some sketchy encounters with carpenters. One asked me for money when the landlord told me he already paid him. Another one insulted Damary in Dagbani not realizing her Dagbani language helper was able to translate all that he said. When I first came to Tamale I was introduced to a carpenter who “does a lot of work for white people”. I went to him with my ideas and drawings for shelves and a cabinet in my bathroom. (I have been using my travel bag hanging on my towel rack since last year July!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) This carpenter finished when he said he would, came over with a guy who drills and completed everything within a remarkable time. I was so thankful I had a list ready for him to get more things done like kitchen shelves, night stands for our guest rooms, and a futon.--Something I inherited from Auntie Ruby was a beanbag, except it didn’t have beans in it, it just was stuffed with cotton, but you know what I mean. I brought it to Tamale with me. I have never even used it myself. The cover was old and the cotton was so-not-cottony. Pastor Andrew told me the man who used to be his neighbor sells cotton! We went over to his house and sure enough, the man harvests cotton pods and fills up gunnysacks full of cotton. I tried explaining to them what I needed the beanbag chair thingy for and ended up just showing them pics on google. I know they were talking about me in Dagbani about how crazy Silimingas (foreigners) are. The next day Pastor called me and said the man stuffed my bag and I can come and pick it up. Then I went to an upholstery shop, found some sofa material, and took it to a tailor and he is going to cover it for me. He said it should be done on Tuesday.--Another thing I did was try a new seamstress. It seems seamstresses do a great job the first time but then it goes downhill from there. I was told that once they have your business they could pawn off your dress to their apprentices. Grrr… Yeah, finding a good seamstress is a big deal, especially for me since I am a cloth-aholic. Ghana has beautiful batik, tie and dye, and wax prints that are made with a light cotton. The colors are beautiful and I just cannot help myself sometimes. The problem comes when the seamstress ruins it (sigh). This seamstress did a great job, though it was a simple dress. Her price was a bit more expensive but if she does this well, I don’t mind paying. When I say expensive I mean $7.00 to make a dress for me :)--I had to get my annual car check up at the DVLA, equivalent would be DMV in the USA. I got an all clear.--Our microwave has been slowly dying so I took it to a repair shop along with some other things that needed fixing. The next day they were finished and Pastor was able to pick them up for me.--I had a skype call with a church.--A month ago my neighbor, who I just love, had a baby. I took some photos at their naming ceremony. I decided to print some out for her as a gift. She loved them and told me the photographer she hired did not do well. I am glad I could do this for her.--The light I have in my room is not so nice and the fan is under it so when they are both on it is hard to read or whatever because the rotation of the fan makes shadows. While I was in Burkina in February, I saw a lamp that was tall and the top was a calabash. A calabash is a gourd. They hollow it out and dry it and then they make a hole and paint it. Then they put a light bulb in it. It looked so cool. I finally bought a calabash and there are some iron welder boys down the road. I showed them the pics and they said they would be able to make a stand. Cool!!--The few days I did go out and do language people asked me if I traveled. They also told me I look bigger. It is a compliment to be fat…but of course, I don’t see it that way, not that I am fat, but Accra did add some weight to meeeee!! And I fried donuts when I came back to Tamale. And I wasn’t exercising. And people sent me chocolate that I HAD to eat from my birthday. So, all that to say, I needed to make a menu or list, go, and buy some good foods, healthy foods. I went to the market. Tamale does not have everything but sometimes you can really get lucky! They always have fruits and veggies and I am thankful for that.--When I was looking at upholstery for the big cotton cushion, I knew our 20 + year old dining room chair covers were about to tear from wearing out. I told Damary about the shop and we came back another day to pick out covers. Damary, then, stated she would like to recover them! One afternoon, we sat down and tore off the old ones and she glued and nailed the new ones on. They look great. I am so thankful. I have been wanting to do that for a long time.--The last time I came back from Accra, my friend Martha told me I was supposed to buy bread for her. When buses drive north they make stops and the stops before Tamale sell lots of bread. It is a nice gift people buy for family when they are coming to visit or coming home. When I called her and told her I was back in Tamale she asked if I bought her bread and laughed. I told her I will make some myself. Having a bread machine makes baking bread so easy! She was so surprised to have a hot loaf of bread.In terms of doing things and getting things accomplished, it was a fantastic week. In terms of language learning…it was a disappointment. Will try again next week! Be praying. Love you.
Back in Tamale
Had such an amazing 2 week holiday. I really did not know how much I needed it until I was in the midst of it. It was lovely to sleep in. It was lovely to try new restaurants. It was lovely to have family around. It was lovely to read books. It was lovely not to speak Dagbani :) Sometimes I think God is too good to me. Seriously, He provides, and loves, and goes over and above. I feel so precious in His sight. It really makes me want to give back whatever I am/and can.I returned back to Tamale. Everything seems the same. Gotta get back on track with things.I know some of my Dagbani has flown away but I hope it will come back. I need to get back on track with language. I need to walk to some different areas to find new people and make new friends. I need to get back into exercising. I need to get back into eating right. Speaking of eating, I made my mom's lasagna. I think I only made it once while in Ghana because there is so much cheese needed and cheese is sooo expensive. A few weeks ago a small boy was selling cheese for a very cheap price. He was a Fulani. Many Fulani are nomadic and unreached with the Gospel. They have many cows and milk them and sell the milk and the cheese they make with it. It didn't sound very legit when I first heard about this but I have since tried the milk and it is fine. I saw the cheese being fried and I got so excited because this would be so similar to fried cheese curds! And it is! I also googled it and in the USA I think it would be considered Farmers Cheese. Whatever it is called (here they call it Wagashi or something like that) this Wisconsin farm girl is T.H.R.I.L.L.E.D!!!!I also have had a hankerin' for donuts, so I made a few dozen of them. Damary and I ate so many. To keep us from being gluttons, I took some to church so they enjoyed too. Hopefully, I am getting all my food cravings out so I can go back to preparing healthier foods. I find it is easier in Tamale to cook healthy. Things are fresh and whole. I don't use so much sugar or need to fry things. It is another benefit to being up here!Pray I would jump back into language and love it...or at least find that what I have forgotten comes back fast.Love you all.